|10/25/2012 11:55:00 AM|
LETTER TO THE EDITOR: Teens don't need to explore safe sex
Hi I am a young man, so I believe I have a small amount of first hand prowess on this topic. [Headline: POINT: The Message: Safe sex? COUNTERPOINT: Safe choices means safe sex, Oct. 17]
I have a couple criticisms for the author advocating sex (whom I know and genuinely enjoy). She has been involved with many community projects, and is very plugged in with the schools and various drama programs.
But first I want to agree with her;
Yes, if you are not yet a parent or do not want to be a parent, there is no one who should say that you have to be one. Children don't need more parents that are raising their kids out of obligation.
But, if you enjoy the pleasure of sex, and you or your partner become pregnant, then you have no choice. Don't want to have kids? Don't sleep around.
What bothers me about abortion the most is frankly what bothers me about most of America; We have this idea that we can make mistakes and not live with the consequences. Our country is 16 Trillion dollars in debt, someone's gotta pay for it. 42 million children per year? It'll just go higher.
My generation does not need anymore people advocating for it to have fun and enjoy life, it needs fathers and mothers who are willing to say the hard truths and love us through our wanderings.
We are sexual creatures, its normal, until our society decides to indoctrinate us with its perversion of sexuality. Do you wonder why we have huge abortion rates? Turn on the TV. Our sexual appetites are so blown out of proportion, can someone turn the knob lower please?
Sex addiction is a real problem, and it not so secretly plagues most every male I know.
In fact, this idea that a healthy sex life makes you happy is total bunk. Sure on the outside we teenagers look like were having fun; and yeah it is lots of fun, but how about the reality of the shame that we feel, the loneliness, longing and pain? That's a spiritual issue. Sex can provoke such strong emotions from us all, where do these come from?
Sex is a spiritual issue. We are not just exploring another body, we are exploring another soul.
Now at what point is a CHILD not dependent upon its mother?
"If the life cannot be sustained on its own outside the womb, the only person who should decide whether that life continues developing is its host, the mother."
I understand this is a biological statement, but it goes so much further than that.
Tell me what child do you know that can sustain its own life at any young age? If what (Author) Laura (Freeman) says is the truth, should we have the right to kill a 1-year-old child? It is completely helpless and dependent upon its mother,
A fetus? It's a dependent child, just like all children. A fetus is a spiritual issue.
I don't intend to offend here, but I disagree with Laura, Sex is not to be explored, we've done quite enough of that in America. Look where we are now. We need something greater than sex to truly make us happy.
The chemicals of sex wear off, and unless you are into changing partners, (which has a whole host of extreme personal and social problems) you better learn to live for a better pleasure.
Our society has breasted us to vanity. We don't care, we just want it to feel good. Kids my age have abortions because children are inconvenient, so don't stop the chemical rush.
My generation doesn't need anyone advocating for sex, we need parents who will teach us to live life for the truest pleasure, and learn a little self control. Or, who knows, maybe we'll decide some day down the road it's OK to sleep around with more than just other single people our age? Healthy exploration, right? Who's drawing the line where it stops?
We can't use enough drug like stimulation to make us happy. Our hearts were designed for something Greater, and to try and fill them with everything less than; we sell ourselves short.
You only get one life, don't "explore" yours to find out you're still not as happy as you should be at 60 and your deathbed is right around the corner.
Sex is a weighty experience, help us long after something
better. We don't need anymore abortions, we need our hearts healed.
- A 20 year old kid.
Posted: Wednesday, October 31, 2012
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And I applaud you both!
Posted: Monday, October 29, 2012
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Wow....what a perspective from a 20 year old young man. When I was 20, I turned aside the 'traditional' values I was brought up with and decided that it was easier and more fun to live the libertine lifestyle....safe sex and all that jazz.
I even joined a rock band and lived the life of sex, drugs & rock n'roll...I wanted what society told me I deserved. So what was the consequence? A broken marriage, affairs, children out of wedlock, a LOT of pain and selfishness. I'm not proud of any of my actions during that time. And I've tried to make amends where I could and let God take care of the rest.
I bought into the 'do it if it feels good for you' mentality and reaped its consequences.
After reading Bryce's response to Ms. Freeman, I went back to read her perspective and was amazed at the callousness and shallowness in which she treats sexuality. And of course she is adament about getting rid of anything that promotes 'traditional' morality.
But let's us our ability to reason to consider the following:
Since the 60s and 70s when the 'Sexual Revolution' took place, and abortion and contraception and liberal sexual mores came into wide acceptance - is our society better or worse?
Are there more or less abortions? Since women could 'only have children they wanted' is there more or less child abuse or abandonment? Has the caseload for Child Protective Services grown or shrunk? Are there more, or less cases of STDs among teens?
Are there more, or fewer, families with no father present in the house? Has poverty grown, or lessened? Has crime increased or decreased? Are more people getting married, or are there less? Are youth more, or less, respectful of adults in general?
I leave it up to you to look up the stats, but I think most people would agree that overall, our families ( and consequently our society) have suffered from treating our sexuality as a plaything, and not as a responsibility that requires wisdom and self-control.
Young responsible men like Bryce give me hope to fix problems that men like me helped create in our youth. Bryce, I stand with you.
- A 50 year old man.
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